I know reading this title you’re probably thinking “Jasmine, how do I teach people how to treat me” or “I can’t control what people do”. I hear you because those are both very valid points. You certainly cannot force people to act a particular way or control them. However, we have a little more control than we give ourselves credit for. There are certain actions you can take to teach others what is and is not acceptable when it comes to how they treat you. These behaviors can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Reflect on how you treat yourself I often share with clients and loved ones the importance of treating themselves well. The habits you form, how you treat your body, and even how you speak to yourself are all vital for your mental health. When you treat yourself poorly it can lead to low confidence, increased feelings of depression, and cause relational challenges. In addition, how you treat yourself can often influence how others feel they can treat you. If you’re continuously engaging in negative self-talk, others may get the impression that it is also okay to talk to you negatively.  RELATED: Managing Conflict in Friendship and Relationships Communicate  Often, due to the longevity of a relationship or because something may seem like common sense it can be easy to forget that people won’t know our every need or want. No matter how long you’ve known someone or the role they play in your life, it’s a must to communicate your needs and feelings. Reason being people cannot read your mind or automatically know what you’re thinking. Communication helps build stronger relationships and make less room for misinterpretations. Communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more.  Set Boundaries Setting boundaries or not can make or break a relationship. Boundaries get a bad rep because they can be perceived as mean or restrictive. However, setting boundaries is a form of self-care because they allow us to prioritize our needs/wants in relationships in a healthy way. When you communicate your boundaries to a loved one, coworker, or anyone else in your life it lets them know what is and isn’t acceptable regarding how they treat you. An example of boundaries you may communicate are “Please call, before you come over” or “I enjoy spending time with you, however I do need alone time each day”. Model Behavior Modeling behavior or modeling is exactly what it sounds like. You model a behavior (consciously or unconsciously) that you would like others to imitate. An example of a behavior you might model is communicating your boundaries with a partner so in turn they also communicate their boundaries with you. Another example may look like using effective communication during a disagreement so the other person will follow suit. RELATED: Session 295: A Conversation On Healthy Friendships with Devi Brown Move Accordingly  You can often communicate, set boundaries, treat yourself well, and people still will treat you poorly. You may not be able to control others, but you can control how you respond to their mistreatment and how much access someone has to you. If a person is treating you poorly, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and whether that person is worth having in your life. It doesn’t feel great to lose relationships, but it feels worse to be treated unwell by someone you care about. Moving accordingly doesn’t mean matching energy and all that business, but it does mean asserting control and revoking access if necessary. *Disclaimer: This notion does not apply when it comes to abuse and domestic violence. If you are feeling unsafe, please call 911. You can also visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org/ or call them at 1(800) 787-3224. The post Teaching Others How to Treat You appeared first on Therapy For Black Girls.

Feel free to use this! Consider this! Pulitzer Prize-winning novel banned:’Maus’ sales soar after book is banned by Tennessee school board On April 28, the Tennessee House and Senate passed legislation that gives Tennessee control over what books are offered in schools. This gives school boards the power to veto and alter curriculum decisions. That was from USA Today about when libraries were fighting back against the school board banning books they didn’t like. Think about how much time they took to review the books they didn’t want anyone else to read. Now think about how much time they didn’t use to protect kids in schools from being shot to death! It happened again today in Nashville Tennessee. This time it was an elementary school. Not just a school for little kids, but a private Christian school. The same people use their “moral values” to attack personal choices and then say the problem in schools today is God was kicked out of public schools can no longer use that as something to hide behind. The fact that we are supposed to be free from any politician pushing their own faith over everyone else has no longer dawned on them they not only have no right to control the faith of anyone else, but God also gave all of us the free will to decide for ourselves. When they are so afraid of words in books but not bullets in guns, they have no moral values! Now consider this, Gun bill that allows for long gun carrying, lowers permit age to 18 passes House committee was reported on March 16, 2023 by WKRN News! This week House Bill 1005 by Rep. Rusty Grills (R—Newbern) would allow Tennesseans with an enhanced or a concealed carry permit to carry long guns, including AR-15 rifles or shotguns. Currently, state law prohibits people with those permits from carrying anything more than handguns. The proposed bill would replace all instances of “handguns” in the code to “firearms.” 6 killed in Nashville Christian grade school shooting; police believe suspect was former student WCBV NASHVILLE, Tenn. — A female shooter wielding two “assault-style” rifles and a pistol killed three students and three adults at a private Christian school in Nashville on Monday in the latest in a series of mass shootings in a country growing increasingly unnerved by bloodshed in schools. Police said they believe the 28-year-old female shooter was a former student at The Covenant School, a Presbyterian school founded in 2001. Police shot and killed her. Investigators were searching her Nashville-area home. The attack at The Covenant School — which has about 200 students from preschool through sixth grade, as well as roughly 50 staff members — comes as communities around the nation are reeling from a spate of school violence, including the massacre at elementary school in Uvalde, Texas, last year; a first grader who shot his teacher in Virginia; and a shooting last week in Denver that wounded two administrators.read more here #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife

Hello. I just want to write out my reflection of this past month on how I ended up here, and how I’ve been recovering since then.  Feel free to read it as you wish. This is only my experience in which I’m willing to share as part of my recovery.  Note: This journal entry is quite long, so if it’s

I know reading this title you’re probably thinking “Jasmine, how do I teach people how to treat me” or “I can’t control what people do”. I hear you because those are both very valid points. You certainly cannot force people to act a particular way or control them. However, we have a little more control than we give ourselves credit for. There are certain actions you can take to teach others what is and is not acceptable when it comes to how they treat you. These behaviors can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Reflect on how you treat yourself I often share with clients and loved ones the importance of treating themselves well. The habits you form, how you treat your body, and even how you speak to yourself are all vital for your mental health. When you treat yourself poorly it can lead to low confidence, increased feelings of depression, and cause relational challenges. In addition, how you treat yourself can often influence how others feel they can treat you. If you’re continuously engaging in negative self-talk, others may get the impression that it is also okay to talk to you negatively.  RELATED: Managing Conflict in Friendship and Relationships Communicate  Often, due to the longevity of a relationship or because something may seem like common sense it can be easy to forget that people won’t know our every need or want. No matter how long you’ve known someone or the role they play in your life, it’s a must to communicate your needs and feelings. Reason being people cannot read your mind or automatically know what you’re thinking. Communication helps build stronger relationships and make less room for misinterpretations. Communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more.  Set Boundaries Setting boundaries or not can make or break a relationship. Boundaries get a bad rep because they can be perceived as mean or restrictive. However, setting boundaries is a form of self-care because they allow us to prioritize our needs/wants in relationships in a healthy way. When you communicate your boundaries to a loved one, coworker, or anyone else in your life it lets them know what is and isn’t acceptable regarding how they treat you. An example of boundaries you may communicate are “Please call, before you come over” or “I enjoy spending time with you, however I do need alone time each day”. Model Behavior Modeling behavior or modeling is exactly what it sounds like. You model a behavior (consciously or unconsciously) that you would like others to imitate. An example of a behavior you might model is communicating your boundaries with a partner so in turn they also communicate their boundaries with you. Another example may look like using effective communication during a disagreement so the other person will follow suit. RELATED: Session 295: A Conversation On Healthy Friendships with Devi Brown Move Accordingly  You can often communicate, set boundaries, treat yourself well, and people still will treat you poorly. You may not be able to control others, but you can control how you respond to their mistreatment and how much access someone has to you. If a person is treating you poorly, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and whether that person is worth having in your life. It doesn’t feel great to lose relationships, but it feels worse to be treated unwell by someone you care about. Moving accordingly doesn’t mean matching energy and all that business, but it does mean asserting control and revoking access if necessary. *Disclaimer: This notion does not apply when it comes to abuse and domestic violence. If you are feeling unsafe, please call 911. You can also visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org/ or call them at 1(800) 787-3224. The post Teaching Others How to Treat You appeared first on Therapy For Black Girls.

You might be wondering what to do with your wedding ring if you’re getting a divorce. Some people keep their wedding ring as a token of their union, while others may choose to part with it for monetary gain. There are many positive aspects to selling your wedding ring after a divorce, including financial independence The post 6 Reasons to Sell Your Wedding Ring After Divorce appeared first on Thoughts on life and love.